Here’s How to Master Reverse Cowgirl

Woman-on-top sex (aka cowgirl) can be ultra-pleasurable for women for a variety of reasons: namely the way-easier clit access and your ability to set the pace and rhythm to what feels best for your liking (bye-bye jackhammering!). It’s also a chance to feel super empowered and in-control, not to mention, indulging in the fact that your bod is on display and feeling yourself to your full extent.

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But there’s a common variation of cowgirl that offers all the aforementioned bennies of being on top, plus more. Yep, we’re talking reverse cowgirl. This simple variation of regs cowgirl (reverse cowgirl just means you’re facing your partner’s legs and feet, as opposed to their face!) offers lots of room to up your pleasure, all with the least amount of effort possible.

“Reverse cowgirl is great because it adds some variation into your sex life,” explains Kamil Lewis, AMFT, a sex and relationships expert. It’s great to impress a new partner or spice things up with an old one, she adds. Plus, the position doesn’t take much in terms of flexibility (no amazon sex position here!) and it’s versatile enough to try in lots of different places, like beds, couches, floors, or cars.

As for the benefits, you can feel penetration in a totally different way (even compared to regular cowgirl), hit a different spot, stimulate your clit with a sex toy, or stimulate your partner’s body in a new way, like playing with your partner’s balls.

Some Quick Tips for Mastering Reverse Cowgirl

• Take your time. Allowing yourself to ease into it here is great, says Lewis. You might feel stimulation in different spots of your body, so really take the time to let any new sensations land before you commit to a rhythm.

• Let yourself feel empowered. You’re on top, says Lewis. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need, (whether that’s slower or harder penetration, or asking them to put a knee up (or both), keep their legs down, or shift around and experiment until you find what works best for your body.

• Take advantage of the freedom of this position. Whereas regular cowgirl can be a bit eye-contact-intensive, reverse cowgirl is great, because it cuts back on the anxiety of peering into your partner’s eyes as much. You can touch yourself, play with your breasts, clit, and or whip your hair around, without needing to look into your partner’s eyes the whole time if you find that challenging, adds Lewis.

• You can try a few things to reduce fatigue. If you find your knees get tired or cramped, try moving your heels outward or inward to reduce pressure and strain there. Or try leaning forward a bit more to distribute your weight more evenly, says Lewis. You can also always feel free to ask your partner to hold you by the waist and thrust upwards so the entirety of the rhythm isn’t solely on your shoulders (or knees here, y’know what we mean.)

For more info on how to master reverse cowgirl, read on:

The Basics

Just as it sounds, reverse cowgirl is the girl-on-top position…reversed. As in, while in typical cowgirl, you may face your partner, but in reverse cowgirl, you face the opposite way (toward their feet). Most often, reverse cowgirl is done while seated or on your knees.

Getting Into It

Seated reverse cowgirl is a good way to dip your toe into this world, says sex and relationship expert Antonia Hall, author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life. For the seated variation, have your partner sit on the edge of the bed and ease yourself down onto their lap. This takes balance out of the equation so you can both get comfy playing around with what depth and angles feel best before going full reverse cowgirl.

If you’re ready to get a lil more advanced: Have your partner lie on their back while you assume the position on top of them. When you’re both well lubricated, use one hand to steady yourself on the bed or their legs while you use your other hand to lower yourself onto them.

Once they’re inside you, you can start using your leg muscles to move up and down based on what feels good for you. To stabilize yourself, put your hands in front of you on their legs or on the bed or reach backward and put your hands on their thighs. Just make sure you don’t lean too far forward or backward or things could get uncomfortable, fast.

Why It’s So Great

Hall says this is the perfect position to learn to be in control. It’s easy to learn, and with your back to your partner, you might find that any anxiety or inhibitions you’re feeling will fade away. You can do whatever feels best for you.

Play around with motions and angles as much as you want: Move up and down, grind back and forth or in circles, flex your back so your partner can hit your most sensitive spots, etc. Plus, since you have easy access to your clitoris, this is the perfect position to whip out a vibrator or stimulate yourself with your hands or just grind against your partner.

Reverse cowgirl also offers the best of both worlds for you and your partner. Your partner gets a pretty bangin’ view of your backside while you do your thing (and don’t worry about whether or not they’re checking out your bootyhole, mmk?).

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When You Start Getting Tired

It’s only natural to get tired of being on top after a while. When this happens, you can have your partner hold your hips to guide your thrusting.

From seated reverse cowgirl, you can also lean forward into downward dog with your hands flat on the floor, Hall adds. This position is great for deeper penetration and a good “resting” position. To make this an active recovery, take a few seconds and move your hips in slow circles with him inside you.

Accessories to Add to the Fun

As mentioned earlier, one of the best things about this position is the easy clitoral access.

1. Fin Finger Vibe

A small, unobtrusive vibrator like the Fin is especially great for reverse cowgirl. The tether means you don’t have to concentrate on clutching it for dear life, and the easy one-button operation means you need only one hand to work it and adjust settings. Buy Here

2. Womanizer Premium

Hall also likes the Womanizer Premium, which uses suction and vibration for targeted clitoral stimulation in this position. Whereas other vibrators just vibrate, suction toys like the Womanizer simulate the sucking movements of oral sex on your clitoris. Buy Here

3. Lovehoney Mini Massage Wand Vibrator

Anything you can easily control with one hand while riding your partner is a win-win here. But if you’re open to handing the reins over to your partner, that also gives you options. While you might not be able to stabilize yourself and maneuver a Magic Wand around in seated reverse cowgirl, it should be no sweat for your partner to press this bb up against your clitoris. Buy Here

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