The 21 Best Strap-On Harnesses and Dildos

Once you start exploring the world of strap-ons and harnesses, you open up a whole new category of sex toy shopping. Sure, maybe you’ve mastered the art of telling a cheap vibrator from an investment one, but what exactly should you look for in a harness or strap-on? It’s easy to get overwhelmed — what kind should you get? Is it better to get a harness with a dildo included or buy it separately? What’s a strap-less strap-on?

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Thankfully, there are experts here to help. We queried Lisa Finn, sex educator at Babeland, Carol Queen, PhD and staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, and Sammi Cole, sex expert at Lovehoney to explain everything you need to know about buying the best strap-on. Quick note: “strap-on” refers to the full set of a harness and a dildo, explains Finn. For a more comprehensive experience, buying the harness and dildo separately is usually best for sizing, comfort, and pleasure for both the receiver and giver.

Great Beginner Strap-On and Harnesses:

For someone just dipping their toe into the water of strap-ons, you probably don’t want to spend a ton of money. For these buyers, one of the following sets under $100 may be a good place to start. You can always invest in a “level two” harness later down the line if you decide you love it.

Eve’s Strap On Play Set

For a wallet-friendly all-in-one kit, this system from Adam & Eve includes three differently sized dildos compatible with the harness: a seven-inch pink dildo, a five-inch curved, purple dildo (perfect for prostate play), and a three and a half-inch rippled blue dildo, perfect for beginners. The harness itself fits waists up to 42 inches.

Active O Harness

If you’re looking for a more gender-neutral strap-on set, this Active O Harness looks like a plain boxer brief. The O-ring fits most strap-on compatible dildos. Not only do boxer brief-styles offer a bit more comfort (less chafing), but they’re also a bit more user-friendly for play right out of the box as there are no straps to adjust or worry about as they flap around. Keep in mind, some reviewers say this fits a bit small, so double check your sizing measurements among the size chart or buy a size larger if you want to be extra safe!

Silicone Strap-On System

This product comes with both a matching harness and dildo in a fun light blue color that doesn’t get much play in sex toy design (personally, I love this color and wish there was more of this than ye olde standard magentas and purples, so I give it points there.) The adjustable straps can also fit a wider range of sizes, from 24–60 inch waists. The dildo also twists onto the base so it’s super secure, which is great if you find the typical O-ring strap-on harnesses don’t give you as much security or range of motion as you would like. There’s also an included suction cup base that the dildo can fit on, so you can get some use out of it as a regular non-strap-on dildo as well. Both the seven inch dildo and the harness are completely waterproof, which is also neat, as many harnesses are not (you don’t want to be wearing soaking wet boxer brief harnesses for every pegging experience, you know?).

Regal Queen Strap On Set

This model is a best seller and the top-rated strap-on harness on Adam & Eve and it’s easy to see why. Not only is the Regal Queen Harness really sexy and chic, it’s also functional with the corseting detail on the back and straps that tuck in on the back. It’s also comfortable — there’s a plushy velvet lining so it’s not just chafing against your skin. This harness is also crotchless, meaning you have full access for penetration or toys as the pegger. There are three sets of O-rings included, so you can fit a variety of toys with the 1.25 inch, 1.5 inch, or 2 inch size rings. This harness fits up to a 64 inch waist and is made of PVC/vegan leather.

Saffron Strap-On

This Sportsheets brand harness is great because it also provides some padding and support on your backside, rather than just straps. There’s an O-ring (dildo not included), and the design leaves the wearer with full crotch access for toys or penetration.

Comfortable Strap-On and Harness

Let’s say you want to get a a strap-on kit that isn’t too expensive in case you decide you’re not really into it long-term. For someone dipping their toe into the water, Queen recommends trying the Velvet fabric harness.

Velvet Fabric Harness

While most quality harnesses will be made of leather or vegan leather, the fabric harness above works similarly in design to leather harnesses, so you can get a taste of the strap-life before committing to a more expensive investment piece. This harness fits up to 60″ hips.

Ride-On Kit

The Ride-On kit is recommended by both Finn and Queen as another good beginner kit. The all-in-one set comes with a six-inch dildo with a curved shaft (making it perf for internal vaginal hot spots or prostate play for pegging), a Velvet harness, and Please Cream lube — altogether, you save 20% buying the kit in its entirety rather than buying piecemeal.

Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit

This fabric strap-on harness also comes with two dildos (one 4.5 inch for beginners, and a textured six-inch one that you can work your way up to.) There’s also a battery-operated bullet vibrator included that tucks neatly into a pocket in the front of the harness. Cole recommends this setup for beginners and it’s easy to see why, since it gives you so many options for the price. This harness fits sizes up to 65 inches (aka US dress sizes from 6-28.)

Best Strap-Style Harness

Simple Harness

Finn recommends the Simple Harness for those looking for a strap-style (as opposed to brief-harnesses, which look like you’re wearing undies). It’s made of machine-washable nylon and is easy to take on and off, and provides open access for the wearer as well. The hip band adjusts up to 56″.

Jaguar Harness

This model is not only the best-selling harness at Babeland, but also a staff favorite, according to Finn. It’s made of soft garment leather, and rests lower on the body for more pleasurable pressure. You can pick the metal hardware to be either silver or brass, and there’s an interchangeable O-Ring. Aslan leather is one of the fanciest names in harnesses, and the Jaguar is another of Queen’s favorites for a classic leather harness look.

Best Brief-Style Harnesses

Brief harnesses are also great for beginners, as the underwear-style is easy to get the hang of and pretty comfy if you choose one that fits well, says Queen. RodeoH, Tomboi, and Sportsheets make good brief-style harnesses (RodeoH and Tomboi also make boxer harnesses as well!).

RodeoH Brief Harness

The RodeoH comes in XXXS, XXS, and 3X for the time being. It’s only $49, which is a pretty good deal for a brief-style harness, so if you happen to fit those sizes, it might be worth looking into.

Tomboi Boxer Harness

At $120 the Tomboi isn’t cheap, but the fact that it comes with not one, not two, but THREE interior pockets for vibrators, two holes for dildos, and a packet for lube or a condom makes it pretty neat.

Sportsheets Silhouette Harness

The Silhouette harness by Sportsheets is a more leggy bikini-style that also has an open crotch for the wearer.

Sportsheets Fit Harness

The gender-neutral design and slip-on briefs come in a variety of sizes, ranging from XS-XXL. Finn likes that the material is lightweight and breathable enough so that you can wear it all day and be ready to go the second you get off work.

Lovehoney Briefs

For only $35 and with 32 five-star reviews, you may as well start off buying these Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness briefs, recommended by Cole. These will provide support and be comfy, so as long as you find your proper size (as always, check the sizing chart online!), you should be gucci.

Bella Spareparts Harness

If you want a more femme look to your brief harnesses but don’t want to sacrifice the comfort of undies, the Bella harness by Spareparts has the best of both worlds. It comes in sizes ranging from XS to 5XL, features a cute li’l booty window, and has four removable garters. This one has all the advantages of a high-quality fabric harness, says Queen, plus the femmey couture look.

Dirty Darlings Harnesses

“If you’re headed to Burning Man, I feel like you’re going to want to rock a Dirty Darlings style,” says Queen. These leather harnesses come in S/M (fitting hips 27″-44″) or M/L (fitting hips 33″-53″) and come in a bunch of fun styles, like Circus Stripe (looks v. pirate-y), lacy, and even a vegan-leather cut-out harness.

Best Advanced Strap-On

If you have hella strong PC muscles and are down for a challenge, a strapless strap-on might be just the thing you’re looking for. These are held in place by the wearer’s pelvic floor muscles and allow couples to get even closer during use, as they’re not held in place by straps, says Cole.

Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On

With a 4.5 inch insert for the wearer and a five inch insertable for the receiver and clit-stimulating bunny ears for both, this is like the Final Boss of strap-ons. It’s waterproof, rechargeable, has eight patterns, and twelve speeds. Fancy, right?

Lifelike Lover Kit

Anything that lets you swap out the dildos is also a good option for those looking to foray into advanced strap-ons, according to Cole. The Lifelike Lover kit comes with a series of O-Rings and three dildos so you can experiment and vary up your play.

Best Dildo

Amor

“The relatively short length and curve of the Amor make it perfect for [internal stimulation] and prostate play,” says Finn. Another bonus is that the slim base makes for an ultra-comfy fit for the wearer under the harness. The $39 price point also isn’t too much of a financial commitment either, if you’re just starting out in the world of strap-ons. If you dig the shape but want a bit more length, Finn recommends the Fun Factory Magnum, which is seven inches and a bit more expensive.

Shilo

The Shilo is Babeland’s best selling strap-on dildo, and is made of soft, pliable silicone that’s v. skin-like, according to Finn. It’s also a “pack and play” dildo, which means it can be curled or tucked under clothing and then straightened into an erect shape for sex.

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